REAL LOVE IS CARING ABOUT THE HAPPINESS OF ANOTHER PERSON WITH OUT ANY THOUGHT FOR WHAT WE MIGHT GET FOR OURSELVES. SIMPLE RIGHT ? WRONG, MOST PEOPLE HAVE NEVER EXPIRIENCED UNCONDITIONAL LOVE FROM ANYONE- NOT FROM PARENTS, HUSBANDS, WIVES, OR FRIENDS.
THE CONCEPT OF UNCONDITIONAL LOVE IS EASY, MOST OF US FIND IT REVOLUTIONARY TO APPLY BECAUSE WE HAVE NEVER SEEN IT & HAVE ONLY EXPIRIENCED CONDITIONAL LOVE.
( WHEN WE WERE GOOD LITTLE KIDS OUR PARENTS SMILED & PATTED US ON THE HEAD BUT AS SOON AS WE MESSED UP THEY BECAME IRRITATED - THAT IS AN EXCHANGE OF CONDITIONAL LOVE )
THERE IS ONLY ONE KIND OF LOVE & THROUGH NO FAULT OF OUR OWN, DO FEW OF US RECIEVE OR GIVE REAL LOVE. TERRIBLE VOIDS FORM IN THE ABSENCE OF REAL LOVE, & WE LIVE OUR LIVES GIVING & RECIEVING IMMITATION LOVE.
IMMITATION LOVE IS CONDITIONAL AND IT MANIFESTS ITSELF IN 4 FORMS: PRAISE, POWER, PLEASURE, AND SAFETY.
NO MATTER HOW MUCH OF THESE SUBSTITUTES WE OBTAIN, WE REMAIN FEELING EMPTY, ALONE & AFRAID.
WE USE GETTING AND "PROTECTING BEHAVIOURS TO LESSEN OR ELIMINATE OUR FEARS OF NOT BEING LOVED UNCONDITIONALLY.
WE USE GETTING BEHAVIOURS- LYING, ATTACKING, ACTING LIKE A VICTIM, AND CLINGING TO TRY TO FILL OUR EMPTINESS WITH IMITATION LOVE.
WE USE PROTECTING BEHAVIOURS- LYING, ATTACKING, ACTING LIKE A VICTIM, AND RUNNING- TO GET THE LOVE WE CRAVE.
THE FIRST STEP TO OBTAINING UNCONDITIONAL LOVE IS TO TELL THE TRUTH ABOUT OURSELVES, ABOUT EVERYTHING..
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